The deepest feeling

Loneliness is probably one of the scariest feelings we can have. Loneliness is such a scary feeling because it is the one feeling that makes us face ourselves. More than fear or anger, loneliness brings us back into our own thoughts, our own feelings, and our own histories. We fear loneliness because we feel disconnected from the world and we often are fearful that we won’t be able to find human connection again. Loneliness reminds us of our vulnerability and we don’t end up with justification the same way we do with an emotion like anger.

Loneliness is the leading cause of suicide. This is because without human connection most of us do not know how to change our own thoughts and beliefs and we often don’t know how to change our own mind frames. So once we hit loneliness, we feel empty and devoid, and in many cases worthless. We crave human connection so desperately that loneliness actually can make us feel as though our presence here on the planet is not valued by anyone. We have no connection of understanding and we fear for our own safety. It is more than possible to reach out beyond your loneliness and find someone who does understand, if even for a brief moment. When loneliness captures us we need to find the coping skills that will help to set us free. The loneliness is a temporary situation. Life is also temporary, but life is not designed for loneliness. Reaching out beyond the feeling can be life saving for you, and possibly someone else.

Simple Loneliness

Perhaps the worst kind of loneliness is feeling alone when a person is around other familiar people. It may the annual family reunion of the office party when the realization hits that these people just do know you or even understand how you think or feeling about any given topic. You are only there to serve a function or a particular dynamic of a group. It is a hard realization when a person discovers that they do not have to be alone to feel loneliness.

Is the loneliness is a fact or just a projection of a person’s feelings at the time? In all reality the group of people you are with have no idea you feel this way and would probably be concerned if they knew. It is natural for people to assume that everyone is feeling the same way that they are; especially when one is having fun or bonding. Is it possible that this particular feeling of loneliness is an indicator of depression?

Some people may not experience this type of loneliness in groups; they feel it in their relationship with their significant other. Two people in a relationship grow so far apart that they no longer feel the presence of the other next to them nor do they feel the distinct feeling of their partner reaching for the same goals. A realization occurs that the person you have chosen to spend your life with simply does not understand your thoughts or feelings…or maybe they just no longer want to.

Loneliness and modern times

Nowadays very many people suffer from loneliness. This is so very understandable, because today people value freedoms and rights. Loneliness is another side of freedom. If you are free, it means that nobody can demend something from you. As a result, you also can't demand anything from other people. Thus the vicious circle is created. Freedom in its radical form makes people extremely unsociable and unfriendly. They prefer to be on their own and not to communicate with each other. Of course, it doesn't refer to all people, but such a terrible tendency really exists. Day by day we become more withdrawn and drift apart from each other. We pay attention to our material comfort, convenience and so on. In short, we take care solely about our material welfare. As for our spiritual world, we underestimate its value. One of the keys to mental welfare is having true friends. We can't go without friends. However, we think that we don't need any. If the situation develops in such a way, we are likely to forget what friendship really is. In order to avoid this sad cast, we must become more open to each other. We must learn to understand each other and respect each pother. Otherwise we won't be able to survive in this world. Only jointly we can overcome all our problems and difficulties. We have no other way out. We are doomed to love each other, though we still don't understand this truth. Love people, talk to them, make friends and you will never be lonely.