Words are nothing

A lot of words people say about loneliness. And you can say another million of words about loneliness and those may be the best and the most striking words, but all those words are nothing in comparison to this feeling. Those words are just sounds and feeling of loneliness is something that stays with you for a long time and even in case there are people around you it doesn’t mean you are not lonely. We are lonely in this world, all of us and there is no such a person in this world or that world or each of worlds, there is no such a person who would really care about you and things you have inside. No matter how hard you try and no matter how much people you have right here and right now – you are still lonely and this is the way it will always be. This is the only way it can be and it is not even sad and it doesn’t hurt, it is just what it is and it is just how it will be. Loneliness means that you are alone and it is not that bad. “Lonely” means alone and no people you let inside and so no people that can hurt you.

A Rejuvenating Type of Loneliness

Loneliness is a common affliction which comes to all, now and again. A person can be drenched in loneliness while in the middle of a room full of good friends and family. A person can be lonely in ways that wrench the heart painfully, or feel a loneliness that is possessed of a sublime melancholy beauty. Not always is loneliness a bad thing, as feeling the pangs of loneliness can help one to learn and feel a great many things. It’s important to accept being lonely once in a while, as avoiding loneliness is much more harmful than indulging in it occasionally.

Loneliness can hit on a rainy afternoon when the feeling of being solitary inside one’s own mind is so intense that it seems impossible that anyone else could ever feel quite that way. It can be a feeling that each person is alone in his or her own mind, and whatever thoughts and feelings we manage to share are the result of bumbling around in the dark. This kind of loneliness is completely normal, and may pass within an hour or day. Allowing oneself to fall so deeply into one’s own self and one’s own thoughts can be a lovely way to spend an afternoon that makes all the days of activity more full and appreciated. There are many different types of loneliness. While a long-term loneliness may require some remedy, an occasional bout of intense loneliness can be wonderful for the mind and spirit.

The deepest feeling

Loneliness is probably one of the scariest feelings we can have. Loneliness is such a scary feeling because it is the one feeling that makes us face ourselves. More than fear or anger, loneliness brings us back into our own thoughts, our own feelings, and our own histories. We fear loneliness because we feel disconnected from the world and we often are fearful that we won’t be able to find human connection again. Loneliness reminds us of our vulnerability and we don’t end up with justification the same way we do with an emotion like anger.

Loneliness is the leading cause of suicide. This is because without human connection most of us do not know how to change our own thoughts and beliefs and we often don’t know how to change our own mind frames. So once we hit loneliness, we feel empty and devoid, and in many cases worthless. We crave human connection so desperately that loneliness actually can make us feel as though our presence here on the planet is not valued by anyone. We have no connection of understanding and we fear for our own safety. It is more than possible to reach out beyond your loneliness and find someone who does understand, if even for a brief moment. When loneliness captures us we need to find the coping skills that will help to set us free. The loneliness is a temporary situation. Life is also temporary, but life is not designed for loneliness. Reaching out beyond the feeling can be life saving for you, and possibly someone else.

Simple Loneliness

Perhaps the worst kind of loneliness is feeling alone when a person is around other familiar people. It may the annual family reunion of the office party when the realization hits that these people just do know you or even understand how you think or feeling about any given topic. You are only there to serve a function or a particular dynamic of a group. It is a hard realization when a person discovers that they do not have to be alone to feel loneliness.

Is the loneliness is a fact or just a projection of a person’s feelings at the time? In all reality the group of people you are with have no idea you feel this way and would probably be concerned if they knew. It is natural for people to assume that everyone is feeling the same way that they are; especially when one is having fun or bonding. Is it possible that this particular feeling of loneliness is an indicator of depression?

Some people may not experience this type of loneliness in groups; they feel it in their relationship with their significant other. Two people in a relationship grow so far apart that they no longer feel the presence of the other next to them nor do they feel the distinct feeling of their partner reaching for the same goals. A realization occurs that the person you have chosen to spend your life with simply does not understand your thoughts or feelings…or maybe they just no longer want to.

Loneliness and modern times

Nowadays very many people suffer from loneliness. This is so very understandable, because today people value freedoms and rights. Loneliness is another side of freedom. If you are free, it means that nobody can demend something from you. As a result, you also can't demand anything from other people. Thus the vicious circle is created. Freedom in its radical form makes people extremely unsociable and unfriendly. They prefer to be on their own and not to communicate with each other. Of course, it doesn't refer to all people, but such a terrible tendency really exists. Day by day we become more withdrawn and drift apart from each other. We pay attention to our material comfort, convenience and so on. In short, we take care solely about our material welfare. As for our spiritual world, we underestimate its value. One of the keys to mental welfare is having true friends. We can't go without friends. However, we think that we don't need any. If the situation develops in such a way, we are likely to forget what friendship really is. In order to avoid this sad cast, we must become more open to each other. We must learn to understand each other and respect each pother. Otherwise we won't be able to survive in this world. Only jointly we can overcome all our problems and difficulties. We have no other way out. We are doomed to love each other, though we still don't understand this truth. Love people, talk to them, make friends and you will never be lonely.

Solitude

The sense of solitude is familiar to almost all people. This feeling is very dangerous. It can lead a person to suicidal thoughts. Unfortunately, many people, who experience this feeling rarely underestimate it. Solitude can be provoked by both outer and inner reasons. As for outer reasons, they are the following: the loss of a beloved or dear person, failure at work, problems with career, etc. As for inner reasons, they are usually provoked by some health disturbances or lack of vitamins. Solitude can cause depression, which is a serious illness and should be treated by professional doctors. If you feel solitude, try to cope with this problem yourself. First of all, try to understand the reason of this feeling’s emergence. Then try to think whether it is possible to eliminate the problem, which disturbs you. Solitude is often provoked by lack of communication or absence of friends. Try to find friends, it is not so difficult as it seems. You can find them in the Internet. Fortunately, there are many sites, which can offer you such a wonderful possibility. Many people argue that the Internet swallows up people and one shouldn’t abuse its use. However, if you don’t have friends and experience loneliness because of this fact, you have nothing to lose. This is the way out for you. Don’t neglect it. Always think about radiant future. The only way to cheer up for those, who experience solitude is hope for better life. Follow this example and hope for the better!

Loneliness

Loneliness is a very ambiguous feeling. On the one hand all people agree that it is unbearable and very sad feeling. People can live in society. This is absolutely natural for them and when a person is lonely, he/she experiences lack of communication and interaction with this very society. This deficiency in communication provokes depression and many other mental health disturbances. On the other hand there is a group of people, for whom loneliness is an advantage and it never oppresses them. On the contrary, they are in harmony with themselves and don’t experience any negative emotions. They are accustomed to be alone in this world and they don’t need anyone to live with, to communicate with, to go for a walk with, etc. other people treat these singles with suspicion. Unusual behavior is always strange and makes people keep away from such singles. They don’t suffer from this fact. This is just what they really want. Some of them are misanthropists, others are too reserved and withdrawn, etc. however, neither of these groups of singles suffers from loneliness. People, who can’t live without communication with like-minded persons and those, who prefer to alone constitute two large mega groups of extremes. The majority of people belong to neither of these groups. The truth is somewhere in the middle. Most people experience changes in their mood. They crave for communication at one moment and want to be alone at another. These changes are explained by different reasons. Among them are weather, the time of the day, season, etc. in any case, loneliness can’t be regarded as something absolutely negative. This is a complex feeling, which is vital in small doses.